Couples, conflict and COVID-19

Physical distancing and self-isolation have quickly become two terms that will define 2020. With all this new time spent indoors, we must also be aware of how this will impact our mental health and those around us.

According to MindBeacon^™, provider of one of the leading digital mental health therapy services BEACON^®, the heightened stress and prolonged time with your partner or spouse can prove challenging. And where challenges arise, so too may conflicts.

Here are some tips to help positively manage your relationship according to MindBeacon.

Create a “we need to talk” plan

Figure out how and when to discuss the stresses you’re both feeling.

When your discussion begins, it’s important to do the following:

• Listen and validate each other's feelings - you can show support by listening
• Don’t jump to problem solving mode unless your partner asks for that kind of help
• Focus on developing creative ways to survive the remainder of the crisis

Pro tip: limit how much time you spend discussing relationship problems.

Make plenty of “just me time”

Create a plan with firm boundaries for spending time together and apart. List your expectations and remember—compromise is key! Try to use “I feel,” and “I need,” statements, rather than criticizing each other (this will help each of you from becoming defensive).

Recognize personal signs of irritability and have a safe space to take time apart in. If you find yourself needing space, communicate that clearly with respect to your partner.

Find new ways to connect

You can also create new positive ways to connect. Figure out what you both enjoy doing – going for walks (at a safe distance from others), playing board games, or learning a new language. Maybe it’s time to watch a new movie or series or take a virtual cooking class and enjoy the fruits of your labour together!

Important information for abusive domestic situations

Quarantine and self-isolation can add extra challenges for those in an abusive relationship. If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

If you need help during this difficult time, these resources can help you with the following:

Creating a safety plan for yourself¹
Finding safe and alternative shelters across Canada²
A province-by-province list of helpful resources³

Keep the lines of communication open and be clear about what your needs and wants are. This will help you create a safe and healthy environment. As long as there is mutual respect and empathy, it’s possible to lessen the stress caused by the reality of COVID-19.

Links
¹ Creating a safety plan for yourself
² Finding safe and alternative shelters across Canada
³ A province-by-province list of helpful resources

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This article is for your information and educational purposes only.

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